"Mapping Your Family Success 2016" with Shane Kulman

My Map for Family Success 2016!

This week I am taking an online one week long parent coaching sessions with Shane Kulman, Shane Kulman, MS SpEd parent coach, Behaviorist and Creative Based Family Educator.  This course is to ""map our family success" that is to say an exercise in thinking up clear and positive intentions for the coming year and to break unhealthy habits of behavior for the goal of peace and enjoyment of parenting. Through her, I am learning that the clearer the intention for the family, the clearer the attainment. All behavior is communication and we are learning ways to handle stressful situations and find our own "genius" to the answers by tuning into our own intuitions.

 Shane defines affirmations as statements said as if it's already happening in a positive way such as "I am a confident parent" and replace the negative statements such as "I am doing everything wrong;  nothing is going right which can lead to guilt, bitterness and resentments.  My affirmation this year is that I am a confident and capable mom who is letting go of all fears, anxieties and doubts about having a second child in light of Luki's special needs.  I got this and I can do it. 

G and I have been trying for over two years to have a child with no success after our false pregnancy two years ago.  I wonder if psychologically, we have been hesitant to have another child fearing that less attention would be given to Luki's many special needs.  We have been using various new methods of getting pregnant including the Stork and standing on my head after "artificial insemination" for over an hour.  Gabriel has gone on viagra suffering though aweful headaches as side effects.  I have been drinking PreMama and investing in various fertility-enhancing lubricants.  Nothing has seemed to work.   And of course, working night shift and having Luki sleep with us aren't helping, either.

Last Monday, after a lead from a new coworker who is also trying to conceive, we have both signed up for accupunture and chinese herbs to boost our fertility at a wellness center in Walnut.  We were both poked and prodded for 30 minutes and Gabriel received a prescription for herbs to be diluted and drunk twice a day.  I have not received the herbs, yet.  I am already very regular in my periods and don't feel I have much problems in this area.  Gabe took a sperm count test and it was fine.  The accupunturist suggested he schedule a test to see the strength of sperm motility and get back to him. 

After the first session of accupunture and a day of herbs, Gabe told me his right testicle hurts although he was poked nowhere near that area.  Not sure if this is a good sign or not.  I am not feeling any difference, yet.  Tomorrow, I am headed for my second session. Who knows, I may come home in the mood...lol, we shall see.